Law of Attraction and Learning to Release What No Longer Serves You with Trust

When it comes to utilizing law of attraction most effectively, there are several key elements that we must be in harmony with or we will thwart or severely delay getting the things we want and making the progress we desire. This mode of thinking is a rapid departure from our normal mode of thought and it can take quite awhile to move from understanding these concepts and accepting their truth to actually applying them in our life without feeling sick to our stomachs wondering if we are making the right decision. When it comes to getting the things you want in life, we need to be bold and do things that go against conventional thinking.

Chances are, if you are seriously working with law of attraction, you are currently experiencing undesirable circumstances in your life; maybe you dislike your job or your relationship. You probably want more money so you can increase your peace of mind and live life to the fullest. You want a better life and there is nothing wrong with that.

One of the biggest barriers to achieving all these noble goals is our inability to release on current circumstances, opportunities and situations that really do not serve us anymore, or that are keeping us stuck being who we no longer want to be and doing what we no longer want to do. Intellectually we know that if we set strong intentions and develop strong faith we will get what we want; but experientially we are still dealing with negative programming and we fully do not feel this, even if we know it. This makes it hard to release on these things; we feel safe, even if we are unsatisfied, and we are not fully convinced things will work out.

Once I took on a position doing some freelance work that involved rating websites to help improve search engine results. The pay was not great and the work was tedious. But, it came at a time when I really needed it and I was super grateful. They offer one-year contracts;I came on near the end of the current contract and a couple of months later, it was time for the new one to come out. I was offered one--provided I met their basic requirements, I was guaranteed work for a year. Around this same time, however, I attracted numerous freelance writing opportunities that offered a dramatic increase in my income. To devote 20 hours a week to the rating position would seem ludicrous given the potential hourly rate I would get with this new work. I could do both but it seemed kind of silly. I could make more money that I had in a long time working far, far, far less than I currently was. Given that I was considering keeping the position even though it paid less and would require more of my time, it was clear that I was only thinking about keeping it out of fear that money would dry up with the other things.

Now, being someone who still has blocks and issues like anyone else, it was a bit uncomfortable to send that email saying I was passing on the new contract – I still have some deep conditioning regarding the desirability for security when it comes to our sources of income. But, I knew that if I gave into the temptation to keep that position ‘’just in case’’, I would be sending out the wrong signal to the Universe that I cannot get what I actually want, that I am just settling for a job that pays the bills, that I am only capable of making a certain amount of money.

If you are holding onto to jobs, people, and anything else simply because it makes you feel more secure, because you do not want to release on them ‘’just in case’’ the other stuff does not work out, you will delay getting what you actually want. Releasing precedes acquiring.

You need to make room for the things you want in your life and that often means getting rid of something else blocking it. It takes faith, something that can be hard to maintain, barring the ability to see the future and know for sure what will happen.

I have gotten a lot better at releasing and things have been rushing into my life in ways that I could not have anticipated. The same will happen for you if you can learn to release on what no longer serves and what is blocking your true desires. I am not going to lie, it will probably be uncomfortable to do this and you will feel scared but the things we want most usually lie on the other side of uncomfortable choices.

You Will Never Get What You Want Unless You Figure Out Why You Want It

Behind every desire is a reason. Getting this thing will fulfill something in us, something we are searching for, something we want in our lives. That is obvious but often times, we do not think deeply enough about the “why. We fail to do the self-examination that helps us uncover our core values, core desires, the type of person we really want to be, the type of life we really want to have. Without really getting to the root of why we want the things we want, we will never make any serious effort to get them. We will leave the things we want most in the realm of fantasy, filling our head with false beliefs about being unlucky and similar junk. We will lack motivation to work towards our goals. We will give up at the first sign of a challenge.

While I am still striving towards certain goals, in many ways, I am living my life exactly as I desire. I work from home, on my own schedule. My sources of income are mobile so I can work anywhere there is an internet connection. I am traveling the world long-term, spending extended amounts of time in places, really getting to know them. So many people tell me they are so jealous and how I am lucky and all of it is nonsense. I am not lucky…I was just like most of these people several years ago. I was working some typical office job that I could not care less about thinking that this was just what you do. I looked at certain people thinking they were ‘’lucky.’’ I had a vision of my ideal life but I was not doing much work towards fulfilling it. But then I took control of my destiny, something many of us surprisingly fail to do on any significant level.

Once I started really delving into personal development, I started thinking more about the type of life I wanted. I peeled back the layers of my desires to get at that core issue, ‘’why.’’ Why did I want the things I wanted, why did I want to be a certain type of person? Once I really discovered my core values, I knew that the only way I would be happy is if I made it a point to shape my life in way that reflected these values, that reflected the things important to me.

I wanted to work from home and have my own schedule because I discovered that personal freedom is something I value more highly than anything else. My deepest passion was to travel and not be tied down to responsibilities that I honestly did not want, responsibilities that many of us take on begrudgingly because we think that is what we are ‘’supposed’’ to do or because that is what it means to be an adult. Since I did not have the luxury of a trust fund, I knew I needed to find a way to be able to make money from anywhere, so I could travel in the manner I desired. So, I worked really hard at that and I did not give up even at times when my income was less than desirable and I could have easily given in to the temptation to get a steady paycheck.

Once I got clear on my ‘’why’’, I have never looked back. It was surely not easy at times, but I knew that I could not give up on the things I wanted. I knew that I would not be happy settling for a different type of life simply because it would be easier. If you want to work from home, why? If you want to go have your own business, why? If you want to go back to school to get that degree you never got, why? If you want to enter a certain line of work, why? If you dream to live in a certain place, why?

If you do not get clear on why you want the things you want, you will never get them, I promise you that. Without that clarity, you will never step things up to the levels required to live your dreams.

Detaching from Specific Outcomes During the Attracting Process

One of the hardest things about utilizing the law of attraction effectively is clinging to certain situations, thinking they must be the way we are going to get what we want. If it does not work out, we get extremely disappointed, thinking the process does not work and we will not get the things we desire. When you set intentions for something, it is vital to not get attached to certain situations. As long you hold fast to your intentions, you will get what you want. Remember that you cannot begin to anticipate the million different ways it will come to you; the Universe knows best and it will deliver you exactly what you need.

You set an intention to meet someone and you go to a party or the coffee shop and you click with someone. You have not met anyone you like in more than a year and since this person appeared once you decided to attract someone into your life, this must be what you were waiting for, right? This must be the person you are supposed to be with? Right? You get very attached to this person. Maybe something does not feel right but you rationalize and think it will be okay because this must be the person the Universe is sending you. Then he dumps you and you are devastated. This was supposed to be the culmination of all your attracting work. You feel deflated and that you are going to be alone forever.

You set an intention to attract a certain type of job or money making opportunity and you make your contacts. Someone bites and they seem very interested. You think this must be the opportunity, this is what you were asking for and here it is. Then, you do not get offered the job or you start work and the person you are working for is a total douche bag, or the job was not anything like you thought it would be and you do not like it. You feel so disappointed and think that you are never going to get what you want.

I know this has happened to me in the past and will probably happen to me again. I make intentions and an opportunity presents itself that ends up not working out or not being what I thought it would be and it takes the wind out of my sails. The doubt starts to creep in. But, in my experience, the right opportunity or person always ended up coming along and the faster I detached from a specific outcome, the faster it happened. It is probably one of those things we will have to suffer through numerous times until we can fully grasp this experientially and not just intellectually.

Once you start setting intentions to attract specific things, situations or people, hold fast to the intention and do your best not to get attached to specific outcomes , people or situations thinking they are the only way to manifest what you want. Remember that as long as you made your desires clear, you will get them in some way.

Is Your Ego Getting in the Way of Relationship Happiness?

Ah, the ego. It has been the downfall of many. It causes us so many problems in our day to day life, particularly in the realm of relationships. I know it gets in the way of my happiness sometimes…okay, often. I am getting better at overriding it though and that is a major factor in expanding a sense of peace in my life.

My boyfriend and I actually do not fight a lot but when things do get tense on my end, I am acutely aware that it is my ego that is getting in the way and that I have complete control over how to handle the situation. Being human, I do not always make the best choice of course, but it is a work in progress. While the ways our ego can negatively impact our relationship are endless, the following are the biggies, at least for me and probably for most of you.

Feeling Compelled to Argue Until Your Partner Agrees with You

My boyfriend and I are very into personal development and we often have discussions about the best way to approach situations, the best way to look at things,etc… While a lot of time we are on the same page, we do have some divergent views in certain areas. While I usually pride myself on not caring if people agree with me or share the same view, for some reason, I find myself getting heated when he is challenging me..well, he is really not challenging me, he just has a different point of view. This is a huge difference and one the heated person often fails to realize. I find myself getting worked up and I think because he is not agreeing with me, he is somehow misunderstanding what I am saying. But, he hears me loud and clear, he just does not agree.

Feeling the need to be right is probably the number one problem our ego presents us and for some reason, we feel especially compelled to win when we are pitted against our romantic partners. When we really think about it, what does it matter if someone agrees with us? Well, it matters because for most of us, our confidence about our beliefs and ways of being are far from fully permeating every fiber of our being and we are seeking validation and trying to convince ourselves we are in fact, right. But, that is our own issue that we need to work on and if we realize that, we will feel less compelled to win, be the one who is right, to have people agree with us.

Staying Mad to Spite Your Partner

Romantic relationships create some pretty intense, deep emotional entanglements and we are more vulnerable to the actions and words of our partners compared to the other people in our life. When they do something that made us feel angry or hurt, we take it especially hard. This is all understandable but our ego further complicates this.

We feel like we need to punish our partners…they hurt us or made us mad and they must pay, whether it is silent treatment or underhanded comments. How many times have you continued to be mad at your beloved long after you got over the actual incident because you felt the need to punish them for causing you emotional upset? I think a lot of us are guilty of doing this and it is insane when you think about it. In order to make someone else feel badly, we are making ourselves feel badly in the process and we are not even really upset about anything anymore. Pure craziness!

Just Let it Go

If we can break loose of the grip our egos have on us most of the time, we will create greater peace in our life. We will have better relationships with our partners. I am far from mastering this but the idea has taken hold in my mind and it is something I am consciously working on. So much of our suffering is self-inflicted and when we realize this, we have taken the first step towards freeing ourselves of it.

Life is Not Supposed to Suck, You are Just Mentally Lazy.

For the past 14 months, I have been in Southeast Asia, doing a combination of living and traveling. I have been to Thailand, Indonesia, Cambodia, Laos and Vietnam. I am living my ultimate dream. I have been able to do this because I make my living online. I can work anywhere in the world provided I can access an internet connection. I do not know how many times I have been told that I am so ‘’lucky.’’ I do not know how many people told me they are so jealous. I will let you in on something that seems obvious to me, but probably not to others. I am not special. I am not ‘’lucky.’’ You do not need to be jealous of anyone, ever.

I am living my life the way I am because I deliberately thought about what I wanted out of life, what type of person I wanted to be, what type of life I wanted to live. I figured out what makes me happiest and I decided to pursue these things. I made conscious choices.

Luck has nothing to do with it. It is not as if there is some governing body that hands us a life itinerary at birth that determines what we will experience. It is not like I got the cool package where I do not have kids and I get to travel the world while other people were assigned dead-end jobs, bad marriages, mortgages and/or kids they really cannot afford or anything else people complain about or use an excuse as to why they are unhappy or cannot really do the things they want to do.

If you think that you are ‘’unlucky’’ or that the life you want is not possible to achieve, you are mentally lazy, no two ways about it. You have not taken the time to really think about what you want, what would make you happy; chances are though, you spend plenty of time thinking about what you do not want and what makes you unhappy. I know I was guilty of that for a long time. You have not taken the time to work on yourself or change your negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs. You probably care a bit too much about what other people think and it holds you back from really being who you want to be and doing what you really want to do.

You can have whatever type of life you want to have, but it will not be easy in the sense that it will require you to do a lot of work upstairs. You are carrying around a lot of crappy programming that has brought you to the undesirable circumstances you find yourself in today. You have the power to create whatever experiences you want to create. Your fate is not left to other people and other things outside of yourself – you will never get very far in life if you believe this because you will always be waiting on something outside of you to give you what you want and that is not going to happen.

I am living my dream because I decided to live my dream. Not because I am lucky or special or better than anyone else. I took control of my fate instead of sitting back and taking whatever came at me from the outside. I stopped being mentally lazy. I worked on myself. I performed a lot of uncomfortable examination. I decided to think differently and when I did that, my world changed. The only thing standing in my way was me and the only thing standing in your way is you.

There are people all over this world who have gone on to do the most amazing things after experiencing circumstances ranging from terrible to horrific. No matter what your life is like now or what type of person you are, it is possible to be happy, to have a good life. We always have the choice where to put our energy and how to respond to the challenges the current circumstances of our life presents. Everything starts in the mind, which can be a prison or your greatest ally. You need to decide which one it will be.

Want Something…Start Working Towards it TODAY!

We all want to have, be and do certain things in life. For many of us, these things remain in the realm of fantasy. We may think we cannot have them. We may think that now is not the right time to pursue them. We may think of all that stands between where we are now and where we want to be and it just seems to overwhelming so we take zero action. We look at people who are already where we wish we were and think it is not possible, forgetting that they too started at zero at some point.

Our desire for instant gratification, impatience and a host of other negative influences are working against us. We lament how we do not like our lives but if we are honest with ourselves, we are likely doing very little to rectify that. We make excuses and place blame outside of ourselves but the responsibility lies squarely on our shoulders. We are not making any effort to move in the direction we want to go and we stay stuck where we are.

If you want something, you need to start doing something to get it. Even if it is just something small, it is a step in the right direction. Momentum will build, you will progress. Try to stay in the present moment instead of letting your mind wander to the future. Easier said than done for sure but it is something we need to work on.
Just do something NOW. You never know where it will lead and what doors it may open. As an example from my own life, I love writing about personal development. I would like to write and do other activities that I can get paid for in this area. I want to get paid for doing what I love. I knew I needed to start a blog.

I had been putting it off, but one day, I just started it. I wrote that first post and it looked so lonely. I thought of all the other blogs out there with all of this content. But, they too at one point just started with one post. I now have over 100. While I have not really done much to monetize this blog, I have made some good money from it. When I apply to certain types of positions, I send my link as a sample.

People have liked the work on the blog and have offered me work, writing about things that interest me and I get money to do it. Exactly what I want. By making that decision that one day to write that first post, I slowly built up a real blog and it started me in the direction I want to go.

We all have to start somewhere. Just do something today. Maybe you have been putting off a blog – write that first post today. Maybe you are interested in being a freelance writer – check out some resources to learn the game, apply for some jobs you feel you are qualified for. Maybe you say you want to exercise but have been lazy—take a walk for 15 minutes. Maybe you have been thinking about going back to school – get online and request that free informational brochure.

No one materializes out of thin air a full grown adult living their dream life. Everything starts with that first step. Take yours today.