The law of attraction tells us that our thoughts and feelings create our reality. On one hand, that can be really empowering. It means we have control in creating desirable circumstances in our life. On the other hand, it can be daunting because when we really begin to pay attention to our thoughts and feelings, we realize pretty quickly that the majority of them are not so great. We are conditioned to think negatively and we are instilled with many limiting beliefs from the time we are very young. We are taught to believe that things outside of us are responsible for our lot in life and that our current circumstances reflect what is possible for us. All of this does not bode well for making our dream life our reality, but we can overcome it, trust me.
When we start applying the principles of the law of attraction, we can feel a tremendous pressure to feel good all the time. We think we need to eliminate feeling badly EVER AGAIN in order to make significant change. When we feel badly, think negatively, worry, have anxiety or pay too much attention to our current reality, it makes us feel even worse. We know we are creating our experience and we do not want this crap in it, yet we are still feeling it.
The good news is, you do not have to feel like a million bucks every second to manifest things in your life. There is no doubt of course, that the better you feel, the more quickly and more grand your manifestations will be, but we need to cut ourselves some slack. There is a lot of crappy programming that runs deep within us and as we work on ourselves and shifting our mindset, this stuff will keep coming to the surface. Sometimes it will be hard to ignore our outside circumstances since we have been conditioned to have certain reactions to certain situations and that when ‘’bad’’ things happen, they warrant worry, panic and other negative feelings. Things may not be happening on the timeframe you need them to and it can cause anger and doubt.
What we attract is based on our predominant vibration or energy and things do not manifest instantly, which for the most part is probably a good thing. This is why simply thinking one thought does not create what you were thinking about instantly. This is why you cannot dismiss this concept simply because you did not get what you want by the date you specified. This is why not so great things may continue to happen even after you started seriously working with LOA – past energy is still coming to pass in your experience.
Because attraction truly works by reflecting predominant energy and not thought by thought or feeling by feeling, having bad thoughts is not necessarily a death sentence for your desires. As long as you are feeling better more than you are feeling badly, even if the scale is tilted only slightly, you are on the right track. You will still be moving towards the things you want.
I have attracted many things into my experience in areas of my life when I was and still am grappling very much with fearful thoughts and negative feelings. The key was, I worked hard at trying to feel good as much as I could. In the moments I felt bad, I owned them and worked on shifting them as quickly as possible. Sometimes I was able to squash it pretty quickly where other times, I felt as badly as if I had no idea of these principles and that I have never seen success with them; fortunately, as I go along my journey, these latter type moments are becoming less and less. As I stick with it, I am seeing results in the outside world and this building faith makes the bad moments less intense and less frequent.
The law of attraction will work for you if you put in the effort required to gain control over your thoughts and feelings and work on directing them to favor what you want in life, rather than the things you do not want. You are human and you will have moments when your mind wanders there, but it does not mean all is lost. Forgive yourself in these moments and get back on track as soon as you can.
Friday, March 30, 2012
Monday, March 26, 2012
The Only Thing Your Problems Have in Common Is You
Taking full responsibility for our lives is one of the most empowering things we can do. It keeps us from going into victim mode. It motivates us to take full control over our life experience. We begin to wield the amazing power we have in shaping our reality.
Often times, however, we are the last person we hold responsible for the problems we encounter in our lives. We blame the government, the economy, our parents, the boss that has it in for us and a million other things. We play the victim. We think we are at the mercy of some cruel outside force that is hell bent on making us miserable. We say we are unlucky.
But, when it comes down to it, the myriad problems we face in our lives, whether it is one bad relationship after another or constantly facing financial struggle, only have one element in common and that element is us. We are responsible and no one else. No matter what may happen on the outside, we always have a choice on how to respond, how to proceed. Most of the time we choose poorly and we continue to lament that outside circumstances are responsible for what is happening to us.
On a conscious, logical level, this does not make sense and we will reject it. Why would we purposely contribute to strife and hardship? We want to be happy and have a good life and the idea that we ourselves are sabotaging that sounds preposterous. But, that is exactly what is going on.
We are operating with bad habits and negative beliefs about ourselves and the world at large; these beliefs are steeped in the deeper part of our mind, the part that calls the shots without our awareness. We have little control over our minds and we are completely unaware of the role we are playing in our problems. We react to everything around us out of habit and rarely take the time to think about the choices we are making and the way we are living our life.
The good news about all of this is that with a little effort on our parts, we can take control of our lives and stop feeling powerless, hopeless and believing we must be resigned to a life we really do not want. If we take an honest look at our circumstances and peel back the layers of the excuses we give for why our problems are not our fault, eventually we will pinpoint the true cause, which is ourselves. We need to examine the beliefs we hold and discover which ones are no longer serving us. This may be an uncomfortable process and an extremely bitter pill to swallow, believe me I know. Making true change will likely involve making uncomfortable choices, but on the other side of those choices lies the life you really want to live, the person you really want to and most certainly can become. Get out of victim mode and claim the power that has always been with you, the power of personal responsibility.
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Often times, however, we are the last person we hold responsible for the problems we encounter in our lives. We blame the government, the economy, our parents, the boss that has it in for us and a million other things. We play the victim. We think we are at the mercy of some cruel outside force that is hell bent on making us miserable. We say we are unlucky.
But, when it comes down to it, the myriad problems we face in our lives, whether it is one bad relationship after another or constantly facing financial struggle, only have one element in common and that element is us. We are responsible and no one else. No matter what may happen on the outside, we always have a choice on how to respond, how to proceed. Most of the time we choose poorly and we continue to lament that outside circumstances are responsible for what is happening to us.
On a conscious, logical level, this does not make sense and we will reject it. Why would we purposely contribute to strife and hardship? We want to be happy and have a good life and the idea that we ourselves are sabotaging that sounds preposterous. But, that is exactly what is going on.
We are operating with bad habits and negative beliefs about ourselves and the world at large; these beliefs are steeped in the deeper part of our mind, the part that calls the shots without our awareness. We have little control over our minds and we are completely unaware of the role we are playing in our problems. We react to everything around us out of habit and rarely take the time to think about the choices we are making and the way we are living our life.
The good news about all of this is that with a little effort on our parts, we can take control of our lives and stop feeling powerless, hopeless and believing we must be resigned to a life we really do not want. If we take an honest look at our circumstances and peel back the layers of the excuses we give for why our problems are not our fault, eventually we will pinpoint the true cause, which is ourselves. We need to examine the beliefs we hold and discover which ones are no longer serving us. This may be an uncomfortable process and an extremely bitter pill to swallow, believe me I know. Making true change will likely involve making uncomfortable choices, but on the other side of those choices lies the life you really want to live, the person you really want to and most certainly can become. Get out of victim mode and claim the power that has always been with you, the power of personal responsibility.
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Wednesday, March 21, 2012
A Life-Changing Question: What Will I Gain From This?
Between the pure consciousness that comprises our being, and our thoughts and feelings is a wonderful space, a space where we can reflect, observe and question. Going into this space helps us respond to what is happening around us rather than react in our usual habitual ways. It can prevent us from saying and doing things that fuel the fire of our negativity, lead to senseless arguments or engage in other activities that are a waste of our time and energy. It helps us uncover our motivations, habitual thought patterns, beliefs and a whole bunch of other stuff that can help you live a generally better life with more peace and less strife.
When confronted with someone or something that compels you to argue or engage in some other activity that is sure to produce negative emotions, asking one simple question can be life-changing. If I do or say what I am compelled to, ‘’what will I gain from this?’’ Pondering this question can help you determine when it is best to just walk away or just let something go. So many times throughout the day, we engage in speech and actions that needlessly create aggravation, we give into our ego. We think that doing or saying what we feel compelled to will make us feel better, but it rarely plays out like that. It just feeds into the situation and you end up feeling worse.
When asking this question, you will see that in most instances, what is to be gained is really not worth the hassle of creating the negative situation. You are feeling defensive and insecure about a criticism of your beliefs or choices and you need to soothe that doubtful part deep within by defending yourself, you are in a bad mood and you just feel like being mean, you really do not like this person and you just want to put him in his place by pointing out their mistake or a misstated fact, your partner did or said something hurtful and you see the opportunity to exact some revenge, engaging in gossip or talking badly about someone helps you feel superior or takes your mind off your own problems.
Now, because you are only human, there will likely be times when you will not stop and ask yourself this question, or you will but do what you feel compelled to do anyway. Your emotions will get the best of you and you will just react; that happens to the best of us. It may be particularly difficult to do this with certain people, like our parents or a sibling you have never gotten along with. In these moments, forgive yourself. But, the more you remember to ask yourself this question, the less you will forget; the moments where you do ask and do it anyway may be less intense because you are becoming more conscious of your behavior. Increasing our awareness of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors will bring endless positive changes to our lives and help take us off auto-pilot where we just move through life taking everything that comes at us. It gives us a sense of control and helps us better utilize the power of choice, which is available to us always.
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When confronted with someone or something that compels you to argue or engage in some other activity that is sure to produce negative emotions, asking one simple question can be life-changing. If I do or say what I am compelled to, ‘’what will I gain from this?’’ Pondering this question can help you determine when it is best to just walk away or just let something go. So many times throughout the day, we engage in speech and actions that needlessly create aggravation, we give into our ego. We think that doing or saying what we feel compelled to will make us feel better, but it rarely plays out like that. It just feeds into the situation and you end up feeling worse.
When asking this question, you will see that in most instances, what is to be gained is really not worth the hassle of creating the negative situation. You are feeling defensive and insecure about a criticism of your beliefs or choices and you need to soothe that doubtful part deep within by defending yourself, you are in a bad mood and you just feel like being mean, you really do not like this person and you just want to put him in his place by pointing out their mistake or a misstated fact, your partner did or said something hurtful and you see the opportunity to exact some revenge, engaging in gossip or talking badly about someone helps you feel superior or takes your mind off your own problems.
Now, because you are only human, there will likely be times when you will not stop and ask yourself this question, or you will but do what you feel compelled to do anyway. Your emotions will get the best of you and you will just react; that happens to the best of us. It may be particularly difficult to do this with certain people, like our parents or a sibling you have never gotten along with. In these moments, forgive yourself. But, the more you remember to ask yourself this question, the less you will forget; the moments where you do ask and do it anyway may be less intense because you are becoming more conscious of your behavior. Increasing our awareness of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors will bring endless positive changes to our lives and help take us off auto-pilot where we just move through life taking everything that comes at us. It gives us a sense of control and helps us better utilize the power of choice, which is available to us always.
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Monday, March 19, 2012
When Doing What Makes You Happy Makes Other People Unhappy
While not always the case, truly living your life as you desire can often lead to conflicts with the other people in your life. Doing what you want may interfere with what they want and they do not like that one bit. They unfairly blame you for their unhappiness and try to guilt you into doing what they want you to do, what would serve their interests. Whether or not this would make you happy is of no consequence to them. As long as they are happy, it does not matter. Yet, in these types of situations, we are seen as the selfish ones….that has always made me laugh.
Because we are the ones making the choices that are bumming other people out, we may feel badly. Ideally, our life decisions will receive unanimous support, everyone will be happy for us and we will never have to deal with resistance, but it does not always play out like that. Someone will feel hurt, someone will not agree, someone will wish you were making a choice that benefits him more. Your choices are hurting someone and she will not hold back in telling you so, often times, repeatedly. That can even wear on the most confident, spiritually developed person.
When it comes to this situation, it is imperative that you remember to make the distinction between truly hurting other people with your actions – stealing from them, endangering their mental or physical well-being—and merely upsetting people because your choices somehow get in the way of what they want, what serves them best. In most cases, the choices that cause us the most strife or the desires we let go unfulfilled fall into the second category.
We are taught not to be selfish, to always put other people’s needs above our own, that we should live our life for other people. Now, do not get me wrong, I am all for helping other people out and clearly, we should never truly hurt people to get what we want. I think doing things to help others live a better, happier life is important, whether it is through volunteer work, your profession or just making a point to do nice things for the people you encounter in everyday life. I think one of the keys to fulfillment in life is helping our fellow man in some way.
But, this idea often gets applied in the wrong way and we deny ourselves the right to our own happiness; we feel guilty doing anything for ourselves. If our choices upset other people, we are seen as bad for making them feel that way. How dare we be so selfish. We run around trying to please everyone else and totally neglect ourselves and for some crazy reason, we think this is how it is supposed to be!
Happiness comes from within and no one can make us happy but ourselves. If the other people in your life are holding you responsible for their happiness, they are barking up the wrong tree and you need to make this clear to them. Because happiness cannot come from something outside of ourselves, you giving in to their desires will not truly help them anyway. They may feel satisfied this one aspect of their life is going okay, but it will not be the magic key to lifelong well-being. It is human nature to focus on what we not have and even if they get what they want from you, they will likely set their sights on something else that is making them unhappy. We all need to make our own happiness in life and we cannot let what other people are doing dictate it; if we always leave ourselves to the mercy of other people and other things outside of ourselves, we are setting ourselves up for a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.
Do you find your choices are upsetting other people? How do you handle it? Are you holding off on doing something because it may upset someone else? Please share your thoughts in the comment section, I would love to hear from you!
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Because we are the ones making the choices that are bumming other people out, we may feel badly. Ideally, our life decisions will receive unanimous support, everyone will be happy for us and we will never have to deal with resistance, but it does not always play out like that. Someone will feel hurt, someone will not agree, someone will wish you were making a choice that benefits him more. Your choices are hurting someone and she will not hold back in telling you so, often times, repeatedly. That can even wear on the most confident, spiritually developed person.
When it comes to this situation, it is imperative that you remember to make the distinction between truly hurting other people with your actions – stealing from them, endangering their mental or physical well-being—and merely upsetting people because your choices somehow get in the way of what they want, what serves them best. In most cases, the choices that cause us the most strife or the desires we let go unfulfilled fall into the second category.
We are taught not to be selfish, to always put other people’s needs above our own, that we should live our life for other people. Now, do not get me wrong, I am all for helping other people out and clearly, we should never truly hurt people to get what we want. I think doing things to help others live a better, happier life is important, whether it is through volunteer work, your profession or just making a point to do nice things for the people you encounter in everyday life. I think one of the keys to fulfillment in life is helping our fellow man in some way.
But, this idea often gets applied in the wrong way and we deny ourselves the right to our own happiness; we feel guilty doing anything for ourselves. If our choices upset other people, we are seen as bad for making them feel that way. How dare we be so selfish. We run around trying to please everyone else and totally neglect ourselves and for some crazy reason, we think this is how it is supposed to be!
Happiness comes from within and no one can make us happy but ourselves. If the other people in your life are holding you responsible for their happiness, they are barking up the wrong tree and you need to make this clear to them. Because happiness cannot come from something outside of ourselves, you giving in to their desires will not truly help them anyway. They may feel satisfied this one aspect of their life is going okay, but it will not be the magic key to lifelong well-being. It is human nature to focus on what we not have and even if they get what they want from you, they will likely set their sights on something else that is making them unhappy. We all need to make our own happiness in life and we cannot let what other people are doing dictate it; if we always leave ourselves to the mercy of other people and other things outside of ourselves, we are setting ourselves up for a whole lot of unnecessary suffering.
Do you find your choices are upsetting other people? How do you handle it? Are you holding off on doing something because it may upset someone else? Please share your thoughts in the comment section, I would love to hear from you!
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Saturday, March 17, 2012
Always Happy to Discuss, Never Interested in Arguing, Convincing, Defending or Proving
There are lots of seemingly little decisions in life that can end up making a big impact because they involve situations that will show up in your experience over and over again. One such decision is whether or not to engage in discussions regarding your choices and beliefs in life. These things are very personal and discussing them has the potential to create a strong emotional charge, both good and bad, depending on the person we are talking to.
One of my biggest personal development goals is creating a greater sense of peace in my life. There are lots of ways to accomplish this and one of the most effective is making a conscious effort to disengage from situations that are highly likely to create negative emotions. I do my best to abide by my policy of being happy to discuss my beliefs and choices with people who seem to have a genuine interest in hearing what I have to say, but avoiding situations that lead down the road of arguing, convincing, defending or proving something.
I engage in a lot of self-reflection and I can honestly say I have a fair degree of confidence in my beliefs and my choices. The things I believe are not things that were just handed down to me and I just blindly accepted as truth; my beliefs were formed from deep thought and personal experience. My choices were born of serious thought as to who I was, what I wanted, what I valued in life and I know they are right for me.
If someone else disagrees with my beliefs or thinks my choices are wrong, that is okay with me. It really does not bother me that much. If another person’s beliefs oppose mine or their life choices do not jibe with me, I do not feel the need to try to convince them of my point of view or argue. Live and let live. These sorts of things do not impact my day to day life and for that reason, paying them much mind is just silly and pointless.
Discussions about these deeply personal aspects of ourselves can go in lots of different directions and the motivations for starting them in the first place vary as well. Most of the time, it is fueled by something negative, such as wanting to prove the other person wrong or defending your beliefs and choices against criticism. If we are honest with ourselves, anytime we feel the need to do these things, we are trying to soothe that part of us that is maybe not so sure about what we believe or that we made the right choices. I think most of us hold some degree of insecurity about these types of things, it is only natural.
We always have that choice on how to respond to things, whether or not we will engage. While I am all for a discussion, I am not interested in engaging in ego-driven low-energy activities like fighting with other people about beliefs or defending the way I live my life. These things do not make me feel good. Making this choice can be difficult; you will feel something welling up inside you and you may feel like you will burst if you do not say something. But, if you can sit with it a bit, it will pass. Practice makes perfect….the natural inclination to argue and defend may still pop up, but it will be less intense and it will not last as long.
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One of my biggest personal development goals is creating a greater sense of peace in my life. There are lots of ways to accomplish this and one of the most effective is making a conscious effort to disengage from situations that are highly likely to create negative emotions. I do my best to abide by my policy of being happy to discuss my beliefs and choices with people who seem to have a genuine interest in hearing what I have to say, but avoiding situations that lead down the road of arguing, convincing, defending or proving something.
I engage in a lot of self-reflection and I can honestly say I have a fair degree of confidence in my beliefs and my choices. The things I believe are not things that were just handed down to me and I just blindly accepted as truth; my beliefs were formed from deep thought and personal experience. My choices were born of serious thought as to who I was, what I wanted, what I valued in life and I know they are right for me.
If someone else disagrees with my beliefs or thinks my choices are wrong, that is okay with me. It really does not bother me that much. If another person’s beliefs oppose mine or their life choices do not jibe with me, I do not feel the need to try to convince them of my point of view or argue. Live and let live. These sorts of things do not impact my day to day life and for that reason, paying them much mind is just silly and pointless.
Discussions about these deeply personal aspects of ourselves can go in lots of different directions and the motivations for starting them in the first place vary as well. Most of the time, it is fueled by something negative, such as wanting to prove the other person wrong or defending your beliefs and choices against criticism. If we are honest with ourselves, anytime we feel the need to do these things, we are trying to soothe that part of us that is maybe not so sure about what we believe or that we made the right choices. I think most of us hold some degree of insecurity about these types of things, it is only natural.
We always have that choice on how to respond to things, whether or not we will engage. While I am all for a discussion, I am not interested in engaging in ego-driven low-energy activities like fighting with other people about beliefs or defending the way I live my life. These things do not make me feel good. Making this choice can be difficult; you will feel something welling up inside you and you may feel like you will burst if you do not say something. But, if you can sit with it a bit, it will pass. Practice makes perfect….the natural inclination to argue and defend may still pop up, but it will be less intense and it will not last as long.
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Is the Law of Attraction Too Good to Be True?
When I first started reading about the law of attraction, it really resonated with me; it made sense. When I started looking back at my life experience, it seemed obvious that my thoughts and feelings were heavily contributing to the reality I was experiencing. If we are unaware of these principles, however, this will likely not be obvious at the time. We probably were guided by tons of limiting beliefs and falsely believed our outside circumstances dictated our experience. This idea may trigger anger; how dare someone suggest I am responsible for the bad things in my life, I do not want these things!
For some, this idea may not resonate with them; it sounds silly, naive, or like wishful thinking. It does not make sense logically . It just sounds too good to be true the idea that we can think and feel our way to our desired life. While I am far from an expert manifestor and still struggling with rooting out old thought patterns and beliefs, and working on blocks around certain issues, I can confidently say that the law of attraction is real and it is not too good to be true.
With that being said, however, these simple principles may not always be so easy to apply. Most of us have been indoctrinated with some pretty crappy beliefs and we have little control over our thoughts and feelings. You will need to do some se rious work on yourself to make LOA work to your benefit rather than your detriment. Benefitting from the attraction process will require self-examination and potentially other uncomfortable activities like limiting time with people who are energy vampires, or making drastic decisions to start you on the path you really want to be on.
You need to be patient. Sometimes things may not happen in the timeframe you need them to and this will lead you to conclude it does not work and you will go right back to an energy that will repel the things you want. The important thing is to keep the intentions and trust they will arrive at some point.
You need to cultivate faith and stop relying so heavily on logical thinking. Just because you cannot figure out how something could exist or how it would be possible with logical thought does not mean it does not exist or that it is not possible. You will not be able to acquire the type of proof that your logical mind needs to accept these ideas. You will need to open yourself up to a way of being that may be very unfamiliar to you, a way of being that many will not agree with.
You will need to take some sort of action, but by getting your mind right, you will attract things much more quickly with less effort. For example, if you are a freelance writer, you will not do much to attract clients without putting your work out there or applying for posted positions. With that being said, however, there will be plenty of times you will attract circumstances without taking any specific sort of effort. Ultimately, depending on what it is you want, you will know if you need to take any physical actions to accomplish your goal. No matter what though, your mind must always be in the game.
So, no, LOA is not too good to be true. It is working in your life whether you are aware of it or not. While some may get angry at the idea that they are responsible for the results they get in life, I find the idea to be quite empowering. It is nice to know that the quality of your life will not be dependent on other people and other forces beyond your personal control. Really applying it in your life, however, will take diligence and a real commitment to change, often times, a drastic amount of change in various areas of your life. But, if the end result is getting the things you want, the things that would make you the happiest and most complete, I think it is pretty worth it!
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For some, this idea may not resonate with them; it sounds silly, naive, or like wishful thinking. It does not make sense logically . It just sounds too good to be true the idea that we can think and feel our way to our desired life. While I am far from an expert manifestor and still struggling with rooting out old thought patterns and beliefs, and working on blocks around certain issues, I can confidently say that the law of attraction is real and it is not too good to be true.
With that being said, however, these simple principles may not always be so easy to apply. Most of us have been indoctrinated with some pretty crappy beliefs and we have little control over our thoughts and feelings. You will need to do some se rious work on yourself to make LOA work to your benefit rather than your detriment. Benefitting from the attraction process will require self-examination and potentially other uncomfortable activities like limiting time with people who are energy vampires, or making drastic decisions to start you on the path you really want to be on.
You need to be patient. Sometimes things may not happen in the timeframe you need them to and this will lead you to conclude it does not work and you will go right back to an energy that will repel the things you want. The important thing is to keep the intentions and trust they will arrive at some point.
You need to cultivate faith and stop relying so heavily on logical thinking. Just because you cannot figure out how something could exist or how it would be possible with logical thought does not mean it does not exist or that it is not possible. You will not be able to acquire the type of proof that your logical mind needs to accept these ideas. You will need to open yourself up to a way of being that may be very unfamiliar to you, a way of being that many will not agree with.
You will need to take some sort of action, but by getting your mind right, you will attract things much more quickly with less effort. For example, if you are a freelance writer, you will not do much to attract clients without putting your work out there or applying for posted positions. With that being said, however, there will be plenty of times you will attract circumstances without taking any specific sort of effort. Ultimately, depending on what it is you want, you will know if you need to take any physical actions to accomplish your goal. No matter what though, your mind must always be in the game.
So, no, LOA is not too good to be true. It is working in your life whether you are aware of it or not. While some may get angry at the idea that they are responsible for the results they get in life, I find the idea to be quite empowering. It is nice to know that the quality of your life will not be dependent on other people and other forces beyond your personal control. Really applying it in your life, however, will take diligence and a real commitment to change, often times, a drastic amount of change in various areas of your life. But, if the end result is getting the things you want, the things that would make you the happiest and most complete, I think it is pretty worth it!
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Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Do Not Look to Others for Validation
It should not matter if other people agree with your point of view, accept your lifestyle or share the same beliefs. But, if we are honest with ourselves, it is preferable, right? Life flows a bit more smoothly. You do not suffer the negative feelings that sometimes arise when you face opposition. I do not think that any of us are 110 percent confident in our beliefs and decisions. Validation can be nice and even the most confident of us want and need it sometimes.
But, ultimately, we cannot look to others for validation of ourselves, our beliefs, our choices, our lifestyle. If we do, we are setting ourselves up for a lot of unnecessary suffering in life. We will run the risk of living our lives for other people rather than ourselves. We will conform. We will try to please other people and all the while, we will be miserable.
What other people think of us has nothing to do with us. Everyone is looking at the world through their own lenses and the opinions and judgments rendered about other people and their lives is all about them and them alone and has nothing to do with the other person. Things like religious beliefs, life experiences, and the influence of parents and society at large have given people very fixed ideas about what life is supposed to be like, what is ‘’right’’ and ‘’wrong’’ and how people are supposed to behave.
Because this view is so personalized, people are going to have lots of different opinions. Some will support you, some will go against you. There really is no right or wrong way to live, just preferences. Some people will support your preference, some will not. It is so important to remember that. It is all too easy for other people to make you feel like you are making the wrong decisions or are living the wrong way, but there is really no such thing. People’s negative reactions to you may stem from various things, all things that have nothing to do with you, such as jealousy, intolerance or just a general desire to make other people as unhappy as they are.
Yes, it feels good to have people agree with you or praise you. But, if you are constantly looking outside of yourself for confirmation that you are making the right choices or living your life a good way, you will suffer because you are likely going to have people that are not praising you, they will be judging you and making you feel badly about who you are. Putting more weight on what others think than what you think is a recipe for disaster.
Sometimes you may find yourself troubled by criticism and judgment, it happens to the best of us. In these moments, you need to push through the discomfort and stay the course. If you know what you are doing is right for you that is all that matters.
I would love to hear your thoughts... Do you think you sometimes put too much weight on the thoughts of others? Do you tend to ask others their opinion before making decisions? How do you deal with opposition to your beliefs, lifestyle,etc..?
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But, ultimately, we cannot look to others for validation of ourselves, our beliefs, our choices, our lifestyle. If we do, we are setting ourselves up for a lot of unnecessary suffering in life. We will run the risk of living our lives for other people rather than ourselves. We will conform. We will try to please other people and all the while, we will be miserable.
What other people think of us has nothing to do with us. Everyone is looking at the world through their own lenses and the opinions and judgments rendered about other people and their lives is all about them and them alone and has nothing to do with the other person. Things like religious beliefs, life experiences, and the influence of parents and society at large have given people very fixed ideas about what life is supposed to be like, what is ‘’right’’ and ‘’wrong’’ and how people are supposed to behave.
Because this view is so personalized, people are going to have lots of different opinions. Some will support you, some will go against you. There really is no right or wrong way to live, just preferences. Some people will support your preference, some will not. It is so important to remember that. It is all too easy for other people to make you feel like you are making the wrong decisions or are living the wrong way, but there is really no such thing. People’s negative reactions to you may stem from various things, all things that have nothing to do with you, such as jealousy, intolerance or just a general desire to make other people as unhappy as they are.
Yes, it feels good to have people agree with you or praise you. But, if you are constantly looking outside of yourself for confirmation that you are making the right choices or living your life a good way, you will suffer because you are likely going to have people that are not praising you, they will be judging you and making you feel badly about who you are. Putting more weight on what others think than what you think is a recipe for disaster.
Sometimes you may find yourself troubled by criticism and judgment, it happens to the best of us. In these moments, you need to push through the discomfort and stay the course. If you know what you are doing is right for you that is all that matters.
I would love to hear your thoughts... Do you think you sometimes put too much weight on the thoughts of others? Do you tend to ask others their opinion before making decisions? How do you deal with opposition to your beliefs, lifestyle,etc..?
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
Sunday, March 11, 2012
Your Best Defense Against Doubt? Self-Examination
Doubt is a yucky feeling. It can take the wind out of our sails when we get a new idea. It can prevent us from doing the things we truly want. I think it is a feeling that even the most confident among us struggle with at times. Several things give rise to doubt and while we may not be able to eliminate it completely, we can take actions that help reduce its power over us and our decision-making process.
It would be great if there was some oracle we could consult that could definitively tell us if the decisions we are pondering or have already made are the right ones. We would not necessarily need to see our whole future laid out in front of us, but a simple yes or no would do wonders to soothe our uncertainty. Lacking the means to do this, doubt may naturally arise. We may feel we are making the right decision, but we really cannot know 100 percent can we?
We all want to be happy and enjoy our life and we naturally lean towards decisions that we think can accomplish this. We imagine all the good things that will result from the decision and we feel good. But, we also have a tendency for our minds to wander to potentially negative outcomes – again, doubt will tend to arise naturally here. We know taking that job will be a great opportunity, but what if we are not good at it, what if we do not like it? We know starting that business is a good idea because it is our passion and we could make money doing something we love, but what if the business fails, what if it is better to stick with the safe, secure job? While it is prudent to focus on the more desirable outcomes, once those doubts pop up, they can be pretty persistent and the negative feelings carry a greater weight that is harder to shake.
How many times have you been all gung-ho about doing something only to have your happiness deflated by someone else telling you that what you want is wrong, listing all the reasons why it will not work out, that you are making a mistake, that they would NEVER do what you are doing and list every single reason why? Again, doubt rearing its ugly head. You wonder if this person is right. They brought up all these points you never even considered and now your great idea does not sound so great.
I found the best way to quell doubt about our decisions in life is to regularly partake in self-examination. This type of thing sounds obvious but it is something many of us fail to do on a significant level. We live life never really knowing ourselves, who we truly are, what we truly want. This lack of examination is a tremendous breeding ground for doubt.
Failure to really know ourselves leaves us vulnerable to the opinions and beliefs of others. It allows the doubt to overpower and we end up not doing the things we want to do. The better you get to know yourself, the easier it will be to live the life you truly want and even when you have your doubts, they will not rule you. You will have a better idea of the things you need to do to get where you want to be and you will make decisions with greater confidence, not knowing the outcome will not be as scary.
Our unfamiliarity with ourselves is one of the key reasons we tend to give so much weight to what other people think about us and their opinions about our beliefs and choices. But, what they think and feel about us has nothing to do with us, it is all about them, their beliefs, their life experiences, their understanding of how the world works and how people are supposed to live. If your decisions are coming from a place of deep understanding of yourself, you will know you are making the right choices for you and what other people have to say about it will not affect you as much. That doubt that arises from wondering if other people know better than you will be greatly reduced.
Really think about who you are and what you want. Do not censor yourself or make judgments about your desires or the person you want to become. Who do you want to be? What do you want? Why do you want the things you want? Really pondering the answers to these questions is your best defense against doubt, a feeling that has the potential to keep you stuck living a life you do not want. Self-knowledge will help weaken this force.
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
It would be great if there was some oracle we could consult that could definitively tell us if the decisions we are pondering or have already made are the right ones. We would not necessarily need to see our whole future laid out in front of us, but a simple yes or no would do wonders to soothe our uncertainty. Lacking the means to do this, doubt may naturally arise. We may feel we are making the right decision, but we really cannot know 100 percent can we?
We all want to be happy and enjoy our life and we naturally lean towards decisions that we think can accomplish this. We imagine all the good things that will result from the decision and we feel good. But, we also have a tendency for our minds to wander to potentially negative outcomes – again, doubt will tend to arise naturally here. We know taking that job will be a great opportunity, but what if we are not good at it, what if we do not like it? We know starting that business is a good idea because it is our passion and we could make money doing something we love, but what if the business fails, what if it is better to stick with the safe, secure job? While it is prudent to focus on the more desirable outcomes, once those doubts pop up, they can be pretty persistent and the negative feelings carry a greater weight that is harder to shake.
How many times have you been all gung-ho about doing something only to have your happiness deflated by someone else telling you that what you want is wrong, listing all the reasons why it will not work out, that you are making a mistake, that they would NEVER do what you are doing and list every single reason why? Again, doubt rearing its ugly head. You wonder if this person is right. They brought up all these points you never even considered and now your great idea does not sound so great.
I found the best way to quell doubt about our decisions in life is to regularly partake in self-examination. This type of thing sounds obvious but it is something many of us fail to do on a significant level. We live life never really knowing ourselves, who we truly are, what we truly want. This lack of examination is a tremendous breeding ground for doubt.
Failure to really know ourselves leaves us vulnerable to the opinions and beliefs of others. It allows the doubt to overpower and we end up not doing the things we want to do. The better you get to know yourself, the easier it will be to live the life you truly want and even when you have your doubts, they will not rule you. You will have a better idea of the things you need to do to get where you want to be and you will make decisions with greater confidence, not knowing the outcome will not be as scary.
Our unfamiliarity with ourselves is one of the key reasons we tend to give so much weight to what other people think about us and their opinions about our beliefs and choices. But, what they think and feel about us has nothing to do with us, it is all about them, their beliefs, their life experiences, their understanding of how the world works and how people are supposed to live. If your decisions are coming from a place of deep understanding of yourself, you will know you are making the right choices for you and what other people have to say about it will not affect you as much. That doubt that arises from wondering if other people know better than you will be greatly reduced.
Really think about who you are and what you want. Do not censor yourself or make judgments about your desires or the person you want to become. Who do you want to be? What do you want? Why do you want the things you want? Really pondering the answers to these questions is your best defense against doubt, a feeling that has the potential to keep you stuck living a life you do not want. Self-knowledge will help weaken this force.
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
A Majority Opinion Does Not Always Mean the ''Right'' Opinion
One of the toughest things about living our lives in exactly the way we desire is that it often requires us to go against the grain in countless ways. You need to do things a lot differently than most people do. You need to think a lot differently than most people do. You need to take bold action that many would deem silly, ‘’irresponsible’’, or unrealistic.
We all have our way of looking at the world, our own ideas of what comprises reality. Sadly, most of us have a very limited view of what is possible in this life and heaps of limiting beliefs that lead us to play it safe, to be ‘’’responsible’’, to conform to what others have arbitrarily deemed the appropriate way to live.
It is all too easy to buy into the idea that if the majority of people think one way, then that must be the proper way to live, that that is what makes the most sense. You may face criticism and judgment for your beliefs and how you live your life, and it can make you doubt yourself, make you think that maybe you are the one in the wrong. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is understandable though how we fall prey to all of this. I suspect those of us whose confidence permeates every fiber of their being is few and far between. Even though you may know you are making the right choices for you, that doubt may creep up, especially when you are being directly challenged over and over again by people who are spouting the same opinions, telling you how things should be, what you are ‘’supposed’’ to do.
A majority opinion in no way always represents the ‘’right’’ opinion. I put right in quotation marks there because when it comes to most matters of living, it has nothing to do with right or wrong, it is simply a matter of preference. Selling drugs to kids to make money, cheating people in business, yeah, those things are wrong. If you do not want to get married or have children or you want to roam the world taking odd jobs to support yourself or you like the idea of changing careers every year, not wrong, just a preference.
It can be daunting doing what you truly want when everyone else seems to disagree. But, you need to follow your heart and do what is right for you, even if 99 percent of other people out there think you are ’’wrong.’’ People that bucked conventional thinking are the ones who are living the most amazing lives, the ones who have done the most amazing things. Their line of thinking was certainly not shared by the majority. So, the next time you find yourself doubting whether you are doing the ‘’right’’ thing, think about whose line of thinking you would rather follow, the Steve Jobs and Oprah Winfreys of this world, or the naysayers who are living lives they are constantly complaining about?
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We all have our way of looking at the world, our own ideas of what comprises reality. Sadly, most of us have a very limited view of what is possible in this life and heaps of limiting beliefs that lead us to play it safe, to be ‘’’responsible’’, to conform to what others have arbitrarily deemed the appropriate way to live.
It is all too easy to buy into the idea that if the majority of people think one way, then that must be the proper way to live, that that is what makes the most sense. You may face criticism and judgment for your beliefs and how you live your life, and it can make you doubt yourself, make you think that maybe you are the one in the wrong. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is understandable though how we fall prey to all of this. I suspect those of us whose confidence permeates every fiber of their being is few and far between. Even though you may know you are making the right choices for you, that doubt may creep up, especially when you are being directly challenged over and over again by people who are spouting the same opinions, telling you how things should be, what you are ‘’supposed’’ to do.
A majority opinion in no way always represents the ‘’right’’ opinion. I put right in quotation marks there because when it comes to most matters of living, it has nothing to do with right or wrong, it is simply a matter of preference. Selling drugs to kids to make money, cheating people in business, yeah, those things are wrong. If you do not want to get married or have children or you want to roam the world taking odd jobs to support yourself or you like the idea of changing careers every year, not wrong, just a preference.
It can be daunting doing what you truly want when everyone else seems to disagree. But, you need to follow your heart and do what is right for you, even if 99 percent of other people out there think you are ’’wrong.’’ People that bucked conventional thinking are the ones who are living the most amazing lives, the ones who have done the most amazing things. Their line of thinking was certainly not shared by the majority. So, the next time you find yourself doubting whether you are doing the ‘’right’’ thing, think about whose line of thinking you would rather follow, the Steve Jobs and Oprah Winfreys of this world, or the naysayers who are living lives they are constantly complaining about?
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Are You Addicted to Worrying?
When it comes to all the personal development work that I do, reducing worrying has been and continues to be a top priority for me. It is a particularly troublesome emotion for a variety of reasons. First, it is kind of unnecessary when we think about it because worrying about something is kind of pointless ; it will not prepare us any better if the thing we are worrying about actually comes to pass. We know this, but cannot seem to fully implement it! Secondly, our thoughts and feelings play a huge role in what manifests in our lives and if we want to get something, worrying that we will not get this thing or worrying that we cannot logically figure out how it would happen will negate any good feelings we have put out and delay or prevent them from coming into our lives.
The things we could worry about are endless, some big, some small. The sheer variety of things we can focus on makes it likely that we are worrying about at least one thing every day, probably more. For the most part, we lack strong control over our thought processes and emotions and, out of habit, we tend to focus on a lot of negative stuff. If we are experiencing undesirable circumstances, we think that we must put our attention on them. Worry in particular pulls at us for two reasons. First, we are conditioned to expect the worst outcome and if something could go wrong, it will. Secondly, we lack faith that our problems will be taken care of in some way so we worry about how they will get solved, what will happen if they do not. Lack of faith naturally breeds worry.
Even though we do not like experiencing negative feelings like worry, we feel them so much we get used to them. We are uncomfortable but this discomfort is familiar. We are so used to worrying about one thing or another. A sense of well-being is a nice feeling but it is unfamiliar and in a way, does not feel good. Sometimes I think we are addicted to worrying, it is something that we are so used to and as soon as one problem is resolved , we right away look for something else to worry about. Instead of the resolution strengthening our faith that things will work out okay and serving as a lesson not to worry in the future, we fill the slot with a new problem.
Let’s say you needed 500 dollars to meet your upcoming financial obligations and you were starting at zero. You were praying, affirming or doing some other activity to try and bring the money to you. Somehow, you got your hands on 250 dollars in the most unexpected way. How would you react to that? Would you feel good that your efforts paid off and served as proof that having faith and redirecting your thoughts and feelings can change your outside reality, and that you will get the rest somehow, or would you continue to worry that you do not have the other 250? If you are having some sort of issue in some area of your life and it ends up getting resolved, what do you tend to do next? Do you savor those good feelings or do you start worrying about some other issue to take its place? Does it feel uncomfortable to feel good and not to be experiencing any negative emotions? If you are not worrying about something, does it feel wrong to you?
Do you think you are addicted to worrying? I would love to hear your thoughts! If you are one of those people who proclaim to never worry, I would love to hear your secret...
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
The things we could worry about are endless, some big, some small. The sheer variety of things we can focus on makes it likely that we are worrying about at least one thing every day, probably more. For the most part, we lack strong control over our thought processes and emotions and, out of habit, we tend to focus on a lot of negative stuff. If we are experiencing undesirable circumstances, we think that we must put our attention on them. Worry in particular pulls at us for two reasons. First, we are conditioned to expect the worst outcome and if something could go wrong, it will. Secondly, we lack faith that our problems will be taken care of in some way so we worry about how they will get solved, what will happen if they do not. Lack of faith naturally breeds worry.
Even though we do not like experiencing negative feelings like worry, we feel them so much we get used to them. We are uncomfortable but this discomfort is familiar. We are so used to worrying about one thing or another. A sense of well-being is a nice feeling but it is unfamiliar and in a way, does not feel good. Sometimes I think we are addicted to worrying, it is something that we are so used to and as soon as one problem is resolved , we right away look for something else to worry about. Instead of the resolution strengthening our faith that things will work out okay and serving as a lesson not to worry in the future, we fill the slot with a new problem.
Let’s say you needed 500 dollars to meet your upcoming financial obligations and you were starting at zero. You were praying, affirming or doing some other activity to try and bring the money to you. Somehow, you got your hands on 250 dollars in the most unexpected way. How would you react to that? Would you feel good that your efforts paid off and served as proof that having faith and redirecting your thoughts and feelings can change your outside reality, and that you will get the rest somehow, or would you continue to worry that you do not have the other 250? If you are having some sort of issue in some area of your life and it ends up getting resolved, what do you tend to do next? Do you savor those good feelings or do you start worrying about some other issue to take its place? Does it feel uncomfortable to feel good and not to be experiencing any negative emotions? If you are not worrying about something, does it feel wrong to you?
Do you think you are addicted to worrying? I would love to hear your thoughts! If you are one of those people who proclaim to never worry, I would love to hear your secret...
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Don't Assume People Know What You Want
One of the best books I ever read was ‘’The Four Agreements’’ and one of the agreements the author asked us to make with ourselves is that we should never make assumptions. We should be clear with other people about what we want and how we feel, and ask questions to be clear about what other people want or when we do not understand something. We should not fill in the missing pieces with our own ideas of what we believe is happening or what other people are doing or thinking. Assuming causes us a lot of strife and I think it is something we constantly engage in. I know I catch myself doing it quite often and one of the things that strikes me about these moments is the negative state of mind it has the potential to create.
There are many instances where we end up making assumptions and it seems that one of the most problematic instances is where we assume that other people know what we want. This can be a problem in all types of relationships, particularly close relationships – romantic ones especially! These people know us so well and based on this knowledge, we think that they will always know what we want, what we would want them to do in a situation, what we would want them to say. When they do not act accordingly, we get angry, annoyed or frustrated. We think that they must have known what we wanted and they purposely did not deliver in the way we wanted. Hey, maybe in some cases, that is exactly what happened, but in most instances, they probably had no idea. Try not to assume and talk about it. Other people cannot be inside our heads, they can never truly know what we are thinking no matter how well they seem to know us.
When we really think about it, it sounds crazy that we expect people to essentially be psychic and read our minds but we do it all the time! The next time you find yourself getting angry at someone for doing or not doing something, think about whether or not you have ever actually talked to the person about how you feel about the situation. For example, maybe you are the one who has ended up preparing dinner every night and you are annoyed that your partner has never offered to help you or take over a few nights a week. In your head, you are assuming that he must know that you would want help and he is purposely not offering it. Who would want to cook dinner every night? He must know this. But, he may have no idea that you feel this way. You both have seemed to settle into taking on certain roles in the house and that is one of yours; maybe he does the dishes every night. Instead of simmering with anger every time you bust out the cutting board, talk about it. Tell him what you want.
If you bring this idea into your awareness, you will be amazed at how often you find yourself in a negative state of mind due to assuming that other people know what you want. This is something I have really been paying attention to and it is something that we do A LOT. It causes us a lot of suffering both internally in our minds and externally in our dealings with other people. The next time you find yourself getting angry with someone, examine if assumptions are playing a role in your feelings. If they are, put your feelings out in the open. Tell the other person how you feel and what you want. This could be an uncomfortable situation sometimes, but I think it is preferable to the continued strife we feel from expecting people to read our minds.
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
There are many instances where we end up making assumptions and it seems that one of the most problematic instances is where we assume that other people know what we want. This can be a problem in all types of relationships, particularly close relationships – romantic ones especially! These people know us so well and based on this knowledge, we think that they will always know what we want, what we would want them to do in a situation, what we would want them to say. When they do not act accordingly, we get angry, annoyed or frustrated. We think that they must have known what we wanted and they purposely did not deliver in the way we wanted. Hey, maybe in some cases, that is exactly what happened, but in most instances, they probably had no idea. Try not to assume and talk about it. Other people cannot be inside our heads, they can never truly know what we are thinking no matter how well they seem to know us.
When we really think about it, it sounds crazy that we expect people to essentially be psychic and read our minds but we do it all the time! The next time you find yourself getting angry at someone for doing or not doing something, think about whether or not you have ever actually talked to the person about how you feel about the situation. For example, maybe you are the one who has ended up preparing dinner every night and you are annoyed that your partner has never offered to help you or take over a few nights a week. In your head, you are assuming that he must know that you would want help and he is purposely not offering it. Who would want to cook dinner every night? He must know this. But, he may have no idea that you feel this way. You both have seemed to settle into taking on certain roles in the house and that is one of yours; maybe he does the dishes every night. Instead of simmering with anger every time you bust out the cutting board, talk about it. Tell him what you want.
If you bring this idea into your awareness, you will be amazed at how often you find yourself in a negative state of mind due to assuming that other people know what you want. This is something I have really been paying attention to and it is something that we do A LOT. It causes us a lot of suffering both internally in our minds and externally in our dealings with other people. The next time you find yourself getting angry with someone, examine if assumptions are playing a role in your feelings. If they are, put your feelings out in the open. Tell the other person how you feel and what you want. This could be an uncomfortable situation sometimes, but I think it is preferable to the continued strife we feel from expecting people to read our minds.
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Detaching From Your Desires
When we want something, it is natural to think about it a lot. We think of how getting this thing will make us happier or solve a particular problem we may have. We also think a lot about how it is going to happen. We try to figure out all the possible ways which it will get delivered to us. We may have a lot of negative energy surrounding the desire, such as worrying that we will not get what we want. In certain situations, such as needing money, we imagine all of the bad things that will happen if we do not get it.
The thoughts and feelings that surround our desires play a huge role in determining how quickly we get these things or if we even get them at all. We need to charge these desires with strong, positive energy that says these things are already ours, that they will come to us in some shape or form.
One of the most important factors in getting what we want in life is detaching ourselves from them. We make our intentions clear and we send it out to the Universe, God or whatever you want to call that amazing energy that connects everything in this world.
When we hear about detaching from our desires, what that exactly means may not be clear to people so I will explain it as I see it, as it has worked for me. When we think about the things we want, we can create different energies. When we are in a good space, thinking of the things we want, that creates an energy that brings them closer. This space is filled with wonderful things like faith and trust. Anytime you can think about what you want in this type of high energy, go for it. But, the key is, you must do your best not to undermine this energy with negative thoughts and feelings and this is where the detachment comes in.
You must do your best to develop faith that you will get your desired outcome and reduce negative thinking and feelings surrounding your desires as much as possible. We are all guilty of this sometimes. We look at our current circumstances and we doubt that we will be able to move from them to the place we want to be, the leap just seems too far. We rely on logical thinking, which can kill our dreams faster than anything else because we try to figure out how these things will happen and we cannot possibly know the million different ways that it can. The logical thought leads to doubt, fear and worry, energies that repel.
By detaching, you know it will be taken care of. You let the Universe or whatever you call that permeating force do its job. This does not mean you do nothing, however. Take inspired action that feels good, that will help you reach your goal. If you want to be a writer for example, no amount of good feeling will actually write the book for you. You need to try and feel as good as you can even if nothing on the outside gives you a logical reason to feel good – you do not have to get deliriously happy but just feel as good as you can.
You will likely have moments when you will not heed all of this, I do too. If we were perfect manifesting machines, we would already have all the things we want. We are contending with a lot of negative programming that does not disappear overnight. Forgive yourself in these moments and do the best you can to shift them. The good news is, as long as your positive energy outweighs the negative energy, you are moving in the right direction. Decide what it is you want, charge it with good feelings and know it is done. Do not worry about the ‘’how’’, that is something you cannot possibly even begin to figure out.
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
The thoughts and feelings that surround our desires play a huge role in determining how quickly we get these things or if we even get them at all. We need to charge these desires with strong, positive energy that says these things are already ours, that they will come to us in some shape or form.
One of the most important factors in getting what we want in life is detaching ourselves from them. We make our intentions clear and we send it out to the Universe, God or whatever you want to call that amazing energy that connects everything in this world.
When we hear about detaching from our desires, what that exactly means may not be clear to people so I will explain it as I see it, as it has worked for me. When we think about the things we want, we can create different energies. When we are in a good space, thinking of the things we want, that creates an energy that brings them closer. This space is filled with wonderful things like faith and trust. Anytime you can think about what you want in this type of high energy, go for it. But, the key is, you must do your best not to undermine this energy with negative thoughts and feelings and this is where the detachment comes in.
You must do your best to develop faith that you will get your desired outcome and reduce negative thinking and feelings surrounding your desires as much as possible. We are all guilty of this sometimes. We look at our current circumstances and we doubt that we will be able to move from them to the place we want to be, the leap just seems too far. We rely on logical thinking, which can kill our dreams faster than anything else because we try to figure out how these things will happen and we cannot possibly know the million different ways that it can. The logical thought leads to doubt, fear and worry, energies that repel.
By detaching, you know it will be taken care of. You let the Universe or whatever you call that permeating force do its job. This does not mean you do nothing, however. Take inspired action that feels good, that will help you reach your goal. If you want to be a writer for example, no amount of good feeling will actually write the book for you. You need to try and feel as good as you can even if nothing on the outside gives you a logical reason to feel good – you do not have to get deliriously happy but just feel as good as you can.
You will likely have moments when you will not heed all of this, I do too. If we were perfect manifesting machines, we would already have all the things we want. We are contending with a lot of negative programming that does not disappear overnight. Forgive yourself in these moments and do the best you can to shift them. The good news is, as long as your positive energy outweighs the negative energy, you are moving in the right direction. Decide what it is you want, charge it with good feelings and know it is done. Do not worry about the ‘’how’’, that is something you cannot possibly even begin to figure out.
Learn more about the program that finally got my butt in gear: Click Here
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