Monday, July 9, 2012

Life is Not Supposed to Suck, You are Just Mentally Lazy.

For the past 14 months, I have been in Southeast Asia, doing a combination of living and traveling. I have been to Thailand, Indonesia, Cambodia, Laos and Vietnam. I am living my ultimate dream. I have been able to do this because I make my living online. I can work anywhere in the world provided I can access an internet connection. I do not know how many times I have been told that I am so ‘’lucky.’’ I do not know how many people told me they are so jealous. I will let you in on something that seems obvious to me, but probably not to others. I am not special. I am not ‘’lucky.’’ You do not need to be jealous of anyone, ever.

I am living my life the way I am because I deliberately thought about what I wanted out of life, what type of person I wanted to be, what type of life I wanted to live. I figured out what makes me happiest and I decided to pursue these things. I made conscious choices.

Luck has nothing to do with it. It is not as if there is some governing body that hands us a life itinerary at birth that determines what we will experience. It is not like I got the cool package where I do not have kids and I get to travel the world while other people were assigned dead-end jobs, bad marriages, mortgages and/or kids they really cannot afford or anything else people complain about or use an excuse as to why they are unhappy or cannot really do the things they want to do.

If you think that you are ‘’unlucky’’ or that the life you want is not possible to achieve, you are mentally lazy, no two ways about it. You have not taken the time to really think about what you want, what would make you happy; chances are though, you spend plenty of time thinking about what you do not want and what makes you unhappy. I know I was guilty of that for a long time. You have not taken the time to work on yourself or change your negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs. You probably care a bit too much about what other people think and it holds you back from really being who you want to be and doing what you really want to do.

You can have whatever type of life you want to have, but it will not be easy in the sense that it will require you to do a lot of work upstairs. You are carrying around a lot of crappy programming that has brought you to the undesirable circumstances you find yourself in today. You have the power to create whatever experiences you want to create. Your fate is not left to other people and other things outside of yourself – you will never get very far in life if you believe this because you will always be waiting on something outside of you to give you what you want and that is not going to happen.

I am living my dream because I decided to live my dream. Not because I am lucky or special or better than anyone else. I took control of my fate instead of sitting back and taking whatever came at me from the outside. I stopped being mentally lazy. I worked on myself. I performed a lot of uncomfortable examination. I decided to think differently and when I did that, my world changed. The only thing standing in my way was me and the only thing standing in your way is you.

There are people all over this world who have gone on to do the most amazing things after experiencing circumstances ranging from terrible to horrific. No matter what your life is like now or what type of person you are, it is possible to be happy, to have a good life. We always have the choice where to put our energy and how to respond to the challenges the current circumstances of our life presents. Everything starts in the mind, which can be a prison or your greatest ally. You need to decide which one it will be.

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