Law of Attraction: You Will Never Get What You ''Need"

If the idea that the way we think and feel creates a primary vibration that determines the experience we attract into our lives holds any merit, and from my experience it does, then certain types of thoughts and feelings are particularly detrimental to the creation process. Feeling like we ‘’need’’ something is never really a good feeling right? When we feel this way, we are putting a lot of focus on what is missing from our lives, all the bad things that will happen if we do not get it, how badly we feel because we do not have this thing yet. We feel desperate. None of this will help in the creation process. We will thwart it. We will continue to experience the reality of ‘’needing something’’, rather than the reality where this thing exists.

I have studied law of attraction extensively and I have adopted practices that help me apply it in my life and I have gotten some pretty awesome results. But, being far from an expert, I still have blocks around certain areas and I am acutely aware of various things I need to work on in myself. So, I get how hard this stuff can be to apply. I know how hard it is not to feel like we ‘’need’’ something when we really do truly need it.

Money illustrates this perfectly. I believe one of the reasons that this area is probably the hardest one to create manifestations is because there is a huge feeling of ‘’need’’ around money. It touches every aspect of our lives and not having it can create a lot of stress, anxiety and frustration. For example, we may make an intention to have a certain amount of money that is required by a certain date. Maybe you need to make rent or pay bills. When we first make our intention we feel great. Then, as each day passes without the money, we start to get a bit worried, right? We now only have X days left until we need this money and it still is not here. We begin a countdown.

We ‘’need’’ this money and not having it is making us feel really, really badly. We start feeling desperate and anxious and even though we have our moments when we are feeling good and we have faith, this feeling of ‘’need’’ becomes predominant. When we do this, we create a further state of ‘’need.’’ The only way we will get the money we need is when we stop feeling like we ‘’need’’ it. This is hard for our logical minds to accept and we defend our habitual reactions and think we have every right to feel this way. We ‘’need’’ this money and we do not have it, of course I am worried! Believe me, I get it, totally.

But, we always have a choice on how to view our circumstances and where we put our attention. We can make the choice to not focus on what we are lacking. This is not naïve or fanciful thinking, it is a necessary component to changing the circumstances. If you cannot pay your bills on time, giving all your energy and attention to it is not going to change that. I have been there and I know how sucky that stuff is. I definitely had my bad moments during these times, but I also made a huge effort to direct my thoughts and feelings in a different direction. And guess what? I attracted better financial circumstances through ways I could never have anticipated logically. I got caught up on my bills and my finances improved million-fold from what they were. I worked really hard on not feeling like I ‘’needed’’ that money, even though I really did.

The good news is, you just need to feel good more than you are feeling badly, so when you do have your moments, do not beat yourself up too much. As long as the scales are tipped in favor of feeling good more than you are not feeling good, you are moving in the right direction. No matter how badly you may feel like you ‘’need’’ something, whether it is money or a particular opportunity to pan out, do your best to detach. Need only creates more need.