Changing When Everyone Around You Stays the Same

When you make significant changes and adopt a different belief system and way of looking at the world, it has the potential to create waves in all areas of your life. For all the positive benefits you reap, other things can occur that can be considered downsides, at least with the way we tend to perceive these events. Changing when everyone around you stays the same can be one of the most uncomfortable challenges we face.

When I say this, I am not talking about you becoming better than everyone around you and that there is something wrong with the other people in your life. What I am saying is that when you become a different person and everyone else continues being who they always have been, there is a strong possibility that at least some of your relationships will be affected. A relationship is about the dynamic between two people and when one person is no longer the person who has been in this relationship since it started, changes are bound to occur.

Generally speaking, us humans tend to get very attached to things, we dislike change and we avoid uncomfortable situations like the plague. We also tend to worry a bit too much about what others are thinking and saying about us. Combine all of this, and it can be very difficult to deal with the other people in our lives.

As we become the new version of ourselves, it may become very clear that certain relationships in our lives have run their course or that we need to drastically reduce our time with, or completely cut ties, with certain people. We may need to face uncomfortable truths that some relationships we thought were strong were built on very superficial things, and when you no longer do these things, you see there was not much of a relationship to begin with. Some of these people may be people you have known all your life or it may be the person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with.

This is not to say that you should cut ties with anyone who is not like you or that you should only seek out relationships with people that are carbon copies of yourself. But, as you go along your path, it may become glaringly obvious that spending time with certain people may be holding you back or that they tend to bring out the worst in you, rather than the best. You will naturally want to reduce time with people who suck the energy out of you or leave nothing but drama in their wake. On the whole, they may be perfectly okay people, but they may have serious issues that you no longer have the desire or energy to deal with.

Change is the only thing we can count on in this existence, and this includes the people that come into and out of our lives. It can be a sad feeling to think you have grown apart from people you have always been close with and it can be scary and uncomfortable to actively end relationships, but it is all a part of the game. The changes you are making now will make room for other people, people who are more in sync with the new you. You will never be alone. There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to this type of stuff. Use your feelings as a guide. You may not like the answers they give you, but they will not steer you wrong. You will know what you need to do when it comes to the people in your life.