While we always have a choice on how to view what is happening to us, there is no doubt that certain experiences naturally tend to evoke negative emotions while others make us feel better. It is natural to not want to have trouble paying the bills, not be in a bad relationship, not have conflicts with the people in our lives, not to be suddenly let go from your job. We are human and we are prone to worry, fear, doubt and anxiety. Our problems in our lives have a great pull on us emotionally and mentally, and preventing them from consuming us can be very difficult sometimes.
But, again, we always have that choice on where to put our attention. What we think and feel has a huge influence on the experiences we bring into our reality. Even when things look their bleakest, we can choose to focus on better-feeling thoughts that focus on our desired outcomes, what we want to be happening, rather than what we do not. This type of statement can anger people since they feel entitled to their negative emotions; they look at their outside circumstances and they think there is no other way to feel – look what is going on here? You expect me not to feel badly? Again, we are human and it is understandable why we experience these feelings. But, again, we have a choice. Worrying about something and feeling like crap about it is not going to change anything. We think we must put our focus on these things, but we do not have to.
If the concept of the law of attraction resonates with you and you really want to make it work in your life, you must take a different view of the current circumstances you are experiencing. If your feelings and thoughts are aligned with your current negative reality, it will perpetuate much longer than it needs to. It may even get worse. It will clog up your mind, which will block inspiration and intuitive nudges to do things that will help get you where you want to be. It will block people and opportunities from appearing in your life seemingly by magic.
For the most part, the situation you find yourself in now was influenced by the beliefs, thoughts and feelings you held up until that point. They were likely limiting, disempowering and on the pessimistic side, and your experience lined up accordingly. Change them to better thoughts, feelings and beliefs, and your life will change. Things happen from the inside out.
What is happening in your life now is in no way an indication of what your future will be like. Being broke now does not mean you will always be. Being in a bad relationship now does not mean that is the only kind you will ever have. What is happening now, no matter how bad, does not mean things will stay that way. You need to direct your mental energy and your emotions towards what you want, towards your ideal circumstances rather than towards the crappy ones you find yourself in now. Obviously, if there is anything you can do to help your current situation, do it, do not just stick your head in the sand. But, the most important thing you can do is work on feeling better and drawing your attention from what is happening outside of you because it means absolutely nothing in terms of what type of life you have the ability to create from this point forward.
For most of us, this way of thinking and being is a huge departure from our normal mode and you will have a lot of resistance to it. You will still get caught up in outside appearances. You will still feel badly sometimes. That is okay, it happens to all of us. Forgive yourself in those moments but try to get back on track as soon as you can.