Taking full responsibility for our lives is one of the most empowering things we can do. It keeps us from going into victim mode. It motivates us to take full control over our life experience. We begin to wield the amazing power we have in shaping our reality.
Often times, however, we are the last person we hold responsible for the problems we encounter in our lives. We blame the government, the economy, our parents, the boss that has it in for us and a million other things. We play the victim. We think we are at the mercy of some cruel outside force that is hell bent on making us miserable. We say we are unlucky.
But, when it comes down to it, the myriad problems we face in our lives, whether it is one bad relationship after another or constantly facing financial struggle, only have one element in common and that element is us. We are responsible and no one else. No matter what may happen on the outside, we always have a choice on how to respond, how to proceed. Most of the time we choose poorly and we continue to lament that outside circumstances are responsible for what is happening to us.
On a conscious, logical level, this does not make sense and we will reject it. Why would we purposely contribute to strife and hardship? We want to be happy and have a good life and the idea that we ourselves are sabotaging that sounds preposterous. But, that is exactly what is going on.
We are operating with bad habits and negative beliefs about ourselves and the world at large; these beliefs are steeped in the deeper part of our mind, the part that calls the shots without our awareness. We have little control over our minds and we are completely unaware of the role we are playing in our problems. We react to everything around us out of habit and rarely take the time to think about the choices we are making and the way we are living our life.
The good news about all of this is that with a little effort on our parts, we can take control of our lives and stop feeling powerless, hopeless and believing we must be resigned to a life we really do not want. If we take an honest look at our circumstances and peel back the layers of the excuses we give for why our problems are not our fault, eventually we will pinpoint the true cause, which is ourselves. We need to examine the beliefs we hold and discover which ones are no longer serving us. This may be an uncomfortable process and an extremely bitter pill to swallow, believe me I know. Making true change will likely involve making uncomfortable choices, but on the other side of those choices lies the life you really want to live, the person you really want to and most certainly can become. Get out of victim mode and claim the power that has always been with you, the power of personal responsibility.
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