When it comes to all the personal development work that I do, reducing worrying has been and continues to be a top priority for me. It is a particularly troublesome emotion for a variety of reasons. First, it is kind of unnecessary when we think about it because worrying about something is kind of pointless ; it will not prepare us any better if the thing we are worrying about actually comes to pass. We know this, but cannot seem to fully implement it! Secondly, our thoughts and feelings play a huge role in what manifests in our lives and if we want to get something, worrying that we will not get this thing or worrying that we cannot logically figure out how it would happen will negate any good feelings we have put out and delay or prevent them from coming into our lives.
The things we could worry about are endless, some big, some small. The sheer variety of things we can focus on makes it likely that we are worrying about at least one thing every day, probably more. For the most part, we lack strong control over our thought processes and emotions and, out of habit, we tend to focus on a lot of negative stuff. If we are experiencing undesirable circumstances, we think that we must put our attention on them. Worry in particular pulls at us for two reasons. First, we are conditioned to expect the worst outcome and if something could go wrong, it will. Secondly, we lack faith that our problems will be taken care of in some way so we worry about how they will get solved, what will happen if they do not. Lack of faith naturally breeds worry.
Even though we do not like experiencing negative feelings like worry, we feel them so much we get used to them. We are uncomfortable but this discomfort is familiar. We are so used to worrying about one thing or another. A sense of well-being is a nice feeling but it is unfamiliar and in a way, does not feel good. Sometimes I think we are addicted to worrying, it is something that we are so used to and as soon as one problem is resolved , we right away look for something else to worry about. Instead of the resolution strengthening our faith that things will work out okay and serving as a lesson not to worry in the future, we fill the slot with a new problem.
Let’s say you needed 500 dollars to meet your upcoming financial obligations and you were starting at zero. You were praying, affirming or doing some other activity to try and bring the money to you. Somehow, you got your hands on 250 dollars in the most unexpected way. How would you react to that? Would you feel good that your efforts paid off and served as proof that having faith and redirecting your thoughts and feelings can change your outside reality, and that you will get the rest somehow, or would you continue to worry that you do not have the other 250? If you are having some sort of issue in some area of your life and it ends up getting resolved, what do you tend to do next? Do you savor those good feelings or do you start worrying about some other issue to take its place? Does it feel uncomfortable to feel good and not to be experiencing any negative emotions? If you are not worrying about something, does it feel wrong to you?
Do you think you are addicted to worrying? I would love to hear your thoughts! If you are one of those people who proclaim to never worry, I would love to hear your secret...
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