This subject is something I have been thinking a lot about lately and have been having a lot of personal experience with in a very specific kind of way. I am sure this is something familiar to a lot of us on the personal development journey.
We are having some issue we are working on. Maybe we are worried about money or some other situation. It gets us all tied up in knots and we work really hard on trying to shift our feelings to ones that will serve us better, that will help us attract better circumstances and resolve the issue. We affirm, we meditate, or engage in some other exercise to help us feel better.
In these moments, the true us shines through, we connect with the truth that everything is well and will be taken care of provided we believe it is so. We feel amazing. Our worry has melted away and all feels right. We wonder why we ever felt differently. We feel light, like a huge weight has been lifted off.
Then, the next day you wake up, right back in the ‘’bad’’ place. The anxiety is creeping in. Your mind is drifting to what you do not want to happen, the worse possible scenarios. Logic rears its ugly head. Your moment of faith and clarity is no longer. These states are unpleasant enough but our longing for the good feeling state where everything was fine intensifies this greatly. You get mad at yourself for not feeling that way. Naturally, we develop an attachment to that good state because, well, it feels good. Having experienced that, the bad times seem much worse. We do not want to get off that cloud, it is really nice there. There we feel good, we know our problems are going to get taken care of, our perspective on matters is much more palatable.
Simply understanding attraction and the powers of intention is often not enough to allow us to get into ideal states all of the time. We are constantly battling our logical conscious mind and crappy programming. As we move along our journey, these states tend to reduce and we spend more time in the light, fluffy state of allowing good stuff to come to us.
The key in all of this is dissolving our attachments to these states and being more forgiving of ourselves when we are experiencing thoughts and feelings are less than ideal. The less we are attached to the good times, the easier it is to deal with the not so good ones. We may not be able to snap out of it totally, but we will not get as caught up in them. We will have an easier time observing these moments from a more neutral standpoint and prevent them from totally overpowering us. Handling these bad times in this manner will shorten their duration and help us get back to the good feeling place sooner and more often. Accept what happens in the moment and do your best to reduce its intensity.
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