Is it Can't or Won't?

Most of the time, there is at least one way to improve a situation that we are less than thrilled about, if not all of the time. All too often, we hear people saying they can’t do this or that followed by an excuse as to why this is the case. To me can’t means it is not at all possible – we can’t be in two places at once, we can’t fly, we can’t change our skin color.

In many instances, when we are using the word can’t, we really mean we won’t. It is totally possible to do the things we say we can’t do, but we opt not to because it may be difficult, it may involve making significant change, it may mean making an uncomfortable choice, it may mean a bit of sacrifice, it may mean facing criticism from others. On some level, I think we are aware of this, but we do a good job of rationalizing and convincing ourselves that it is not possible to make the change. Then we get to go back to how things are, even if we really do not like it because existing that way is easier, even if it is less pleasant. We free ourselves from taking complete responsibility for our lives, which is one of the best, yet hardest things to do.

If there is anything you want to do right now or want to have, but say you can’t, I ask you to really examine the situation. Is it truly impossible or does making it come to fruition simply involve doing things that you really would rather not do or that you believe you are incapable of doing? Facing these questions honestly is a great first step in making positive changes in your life because it will help you realize that it is possible to do and have the things you want, you just need to make the commitment to getting them. You need to make these things a priority and be willing to make some changes in your life, uncomfortable as they may be. But, if it means getting what you want, it is a task worth undertaking. And hey, if you decide that you can do these things but your choose not to for whatever reason, that is fine too, but you must own this choice and stop complaining about your life because you are choosing to keep living it that way!

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