Sitting With Your Sh*tty Feelings

Unless you are someone like the Buddha, you are probably going to have your moments of anger, frustration, anxiety and the like. I know I sure do. Most of the time, I am pretty good about shifting my perspective pretty quickly. I may not move to Mary Sunshine fully, but the negative emotions lessen pretty drastically. Yesterday was one of those days when I was in a pretty foul mood most of the day, something that really does not happen that often anymore. I will not go into the details of why I was feeling this way, but it was pretty intense. The fact that I was mad at myself for feeling this way only made it worse.

In these moments, it is so tempting to do something to take our minds off of it, like watch television or wander aimlessly around cyberspace. As crappy as I was feeling yesterday, though, I really made an effort to sit with these feelings and just feel them, analyze them. I did not turn on the television. I will admit I did go on the computer for a bit, but mainly because there was something I had to get done by a certain time. Most of the time, though, I just sat. Boy, was that uncomfortable. It makes you just want to jump out of your skin or run around screaming like a crazy person!

But, you know what happens when you make this effort to sit with these less than desirable feelings? You dissect them. You figure out what is causing them and where they are coming from. This analysis can surely be uncomfortable as it may force us to think about things we push down or put us face to face with our shortcomings and things we need to work on in ourselves. My experience yesterday made it glaringly obvious that certain blocks and negative programming have not been fully rooted out yet and that I still need to work on some things. Every time we make this effort to sit with these feelings, we expand our consciousness a bit more. We may not change overnight, but the awareness expands every time and the more the awareness expands, the closer we come to fully adopting better ways of thinking and being because we catch the feelings more quickly, rather than letting them flow through our consciousness like a raging river. Once we get better at catching them, we get better at shifting them.

The next time you are feeling a bit foul, I challenge you to sit with these feelings, no matter how uncomfortable. Question them, analyze them. Figure out what their root is. What is making you feel this way? What role are you playing in perpetuating these negative feelings? This work is surely uncomfortable, no doubt about that. But if the outcome is a lighter, happier you, is it not worth it?


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