Caring about what other people think of us is one of the biggest blockades to increasing our happiness and living our life exactly as we desire. We only need the approval of ourselves when it comes to deciding how we want to conduct our lives. If you put too much stock in what other people think, you will have a hard time creating the life of your dreams because most people live a life full of negativity, fear, judgement and a host of other negative influences and these negative influences will constantly show up in their thoughts and opinions regarding how you live your live and the choices you make. Letting their poison get to you will stop you dead in your tracks every time and fill you with doubt. Most people believe in settling for good enough and playing it safe and that life is supposed to be hard. Most people are unhappy with some aspect of their lives and it leads to needless criticisms and judgments about how others live their own.
Let's face it, being positive is viewed as being more of a detriment in our world than being negative, which people often refer to as being ''realistic.'' People who try to be happy and believe in the great power we have in shaping our lives are seen as unrealistic, naive, simple or crazy. Some love nothing more than shooting down the hopes and dreams of of these types of people and reminding them that we live in an unfair, harsh world where life is supposed to be difficult. They will love nothing more than criticizing every aspect of your belief system, but you must remember that what they think does not matter in the slightest.
We all come from different life experiences that have shaped our beliefs about how life is supposed to be and what is right and wrong. All too often, however, ''right and wrong'' judgments make their way into matters that are not matters of right or wrong, but matters of preference. It is not right to have kids and wrong not to have them. It is not right to get a safe job that pays the bills and wrong to switch careers every year. Unless you are aspiring to do something truly wrong, like selling drugs to kids or making money through dishonest means, chances are your choices are just fine and any criticisms are based on the other person's issues, beliefs, and the like, none of which have anything to do with you.
It is surely a challenge to brush off criticism and judgement, especially from people close to you, but you must remember that your opinion is the only one that matters. As long as people continue to be unhappy with any aspect of their own life, they will continue to judge and criticize others. You cannot make yourself totally immune to this hazard, but developing conviction in your beliefs and what you want to do will minimize its influence.
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