Sure, some experiences are certainly less pleasant than others. Certain things can happen to us that can shake things up a bit or make us fearful about the future. No matter what happens though, we always have the opportunity to shift perspective, to choose what to focus on. No doubt this is challenging at times, but making the effort to shift perspective when necessary is well worth the effort. It will help us in creating an energy conducive to getting what we want and will eliminate a lot of unnecessary suffering.
I have been traveling, and have traveled to, many countries where many of the people are quite poor.In many instances, they will overcharge tourists for taxi rides and myriad other things. Most of the time, stuff like this does not bother me because I realize how little they make every day, and even when they are overcharging me, it is still ridiculously cheap for me. I have compassion for their situation and I do not take it personally. On days where I am in a bad mood, I notice it would bother me a bit more and I would find myself getting annoyed. This is a perfect example of how perspective can mean the difference between unnecessarily creating negative emotions or just letting something go. In the grand scheme of life, does it really matter if he charged me 3 dollars for that taxi ride when the going rate is actually 2? Will spending that extra dollar create any real problems for me? Of course not, so I learn to let it go. Taking it even further, I can choose to focus on the awesome fact that I am traveling to all these amazing places, so why let these annoyances that I know I cannot avoid ruin my good time?
In most cases, we can almost always take a more positive tack on the given situation. It can be scary to lose your job, but you can also look at it as an opportunity to find something even better or move into a new line of work more in line with your passions. The end of a relationship can be tough, but you can choose to focus on the amount of time you will have to simply focus on you and becoming your best self, which will help land an even better relationship in the future. It sucks to be stuck in traffic or waiting in a long line for some service, but you cannot change it and it is not like the waiting is physically harming your health, so why expend all that energy being annoyed...it will not make anything move faster.
The next time you find yourself getting heated about something or looking at something in a negative way, think about the other ways you could view the situation that are more beneficial to your well-being. Bringing this idea of perspective into your awareness will help you realize that situations in and of themselves do not really possess any inherent positive or negative value, it is all how we choose to view them.
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