Fortunately, for most of us, our daily lives do not involve experiencing one gut-wrenching tragedy over another. Most of our negative emotions and difficulties stem from the little things, like people criticizing us or doing things that annoy us. We often do not give a second thought to the negative ways in which we handle these issues, but considering it is these types of things that make up the majority of our daily suffering, it would serve us well to alter our approach. How much of your day is spent producing negative energy and getting all worked up defending your opinion, feeling the need to prove someone else wrong or getting all bent out of shape about things that are utterly insignificant in the grand scheme of things?
We always have a choice when it comes to our actions...we may not always be able to control the feelings that arise, but we are not obligated to act on them. If we really want to make strides in improving our lives, we need to learn to make higher energy choices and refrain from doing things that put us in a lower vibe. I do freelance writing for this one site, which provides a forum for its members to talk about the work and also personal stuff as well. It amazes me what I see on there sometimes and it is a great representation of the world at large-- a world where negativity and the inability to just let things go reign supreme. I see people argue back and forth through the internet like children. I see people taking the time to write thousands of words on why they disagree with someone else's stance on a particular issue, issues which most of the time, have nothing to do with right and wrong, but are simply matters of personal choice.
I am not against people expressing their opinions and debating issues, but in the manner in which most people do it, it serves no purpose and it a huge waste of time. Is it really necessary spending god knows how long crafting a forum post in response to what some complete stranger said? What does it accomplish? If someone disagrees with something you say, what are you truly getting out of entering into a heated argument, whether in person or on the internet? You are not going to change their mind and they will not change yours. You have one opinion and someone has another, JUST LET IT GO. Think of all the other ways you could spend that time that will make you feel better rather than worse.
Just learning to let things go will serve us well in many other respects too. If you have a rude cashier or a crappy waitress, sure it is annoying and you expect better treatment, but in the grand scheme of life, does it really have a lasting impact on your well-being? Will it matter tomorrow, or even 10 minutes after you are no longer dealing with them? JUST LET IT GO. If your friend or spouse does something little to anger you, something that you know will not matter tomorrow, JUST LET IT GO. This is not to say you should just let people walk all over you, but if we are honest with ourselves, 99 percent of the slights that anger us are usually far from being of an abusive or demeaning nature and just LETTING THEM GO is not akin to being a doormat.
The next time you feel anger welling up about something and you are prompted to argue, yell, or put someone in their place, really think about the issue. Is it that big of a deal? What will I accomplish from having this negative reaction? In most cases, you will find the issue is not a big deal and you will accomplish nothing positive from acting on the negativity. And you know what you should do? LET IT GO!
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