It's Not You, It's Them

Our tendency to take everything personally causes us needless suffering. Why? Because everything people do and say is all about them, it has nothing to do with you. Logically, we might be able to grasp this concept, but on an emotional level, it is a bit more difficult. How can we not take things personally? The person said or did this thing to me. The things we say, do believe, think...whatever, are all filtered through our own individual lense and this will always be the greatest influence on everything we say, do, believe...whatever. How a person reacts to what you say or do is all about their own stuff, it has nothing to do with you. The ability to keep this in mind will reduce so much stress in your life and it will make it easier to live as you desire because you will not let other people's opinions and criticisms affect the decisions you make.

How many times has a person ruined your day because of something he said or did to you or did not say or do? How dare she act in such a manner towards you. Guess what? Nothing to do with you. Maybe the rude waitress hates her job. Maybe your co-worker who snapped at you just found out he has terminal cancer or every ounce of energy outside of work is spent caring for a special needs child or a sick parent and he is on the verge of an emotional breakdown. Maybe that rude cashier is just a miserable person in general.

How many times have you gotten heated over a parent, sibling or friend criticizing some aspect of your life or bursting your bubble by crapping all over some idea you were over the moon about? Their opinion is going through their filter and it has nothing to do with you. Their reaction may stem from various things such as jealousy, bitterness anger, growing up in a different time, religious belief, life experience or a million other things.


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